Archive for July, 2019

h1

What Kind of Critic Are You?

July 20, 2019

You probably have been the recipient of “constructive” criticism.  Did you enjoy it?  Was the experience useful?  Really?

Have you ever been in a position to GIVE that kind of feedback?  Be assured that it’s not comfortable for either person.

  • Are you the type of critic that gives feedback with lots of “facts” that justify or make YOU feel better about giving that criticism?
  • Are you the type of critic that gives criticism because you are “helping” by providing them with the “truth”?
  • Are you the type of critic that gives feedback by talking around and around the criticism in an effort to soften the blow?
  • Are you the type of critic that tries to minimize the seriousness of the feedback and then quickly redirects the conversation to cheer them up?

Next time, spend a while thinking about how the other person you are critiquing can best RECEIVE your comments.  For example, will they want to hear your input directly, with no frills or do they need the message to be tempered for them to hear what you have to say?

If you can adapt to another person’s communication “protocol” maybe your comments will be received as caring and not criticism.